NO ….. It is a rather simple word, yet so hard to say. Why is that? Is it because we see” No” as a negative response? Is it because we want to please everyone? I think we often say yes because we fear having to supply a reason, excuse or explanation for saying no. Guess what, you can say” no” and you don’t have to explain yourself.
Not too long ago just like so many other parents I found myself in a “YES Rut”. I said YES to EVERY bake sale, fundraiser, book fair, class trip, play date, coffee date, book club, moms club , you name it – I signed us up for it.
I think that as a parent we think that there is power in busyness. I think we respect those that seem to be “doing it all”. I know when I finally sat back and thought about my busyness I realized I was doing a disservice to myself and my family. In fact, I was NOT pleasing myself at all. I was too busy to enjoy much of anything. By not having the guts to say no I was overextending myself. I caused myself far too much stress and anxiety. Stress is toxic and can lead to a slue of bad side effects. Which for me, it did. It took working with a Health Coach for me to see the connection.
Not only was I stressed and overextended, but I wasn’t saying YES to myself. I was putting my family, my health, my life and my dreams on the back burner. I was just too busy saying yes to everything and everyone else. When I finally took that first step and said no, It did feel weird, but it also felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. I remember sitting at the ball field and actually watching and enjoying my own children as oppose to babysitting the entire team. I remember almost feeling guilty. I am telling you, DON’T feel guilty saying no! DON’T feel guilty enjoying your life! DON’T feel guilty for not saying yes! I now have time to enjoy my kids – after all, they only stay kids for so long. I can go back and be a volunteer” yes junkie” again, but I will never get to be their mom while they’re little again.
Embrace the freedom you have to say no! You will be surprised at all the positives that result!